Wednesday, February 14, 2018

Forty-Eight (48) years of Happy!!!

In my mind's eye I can still picture the beautiful day
February 14, 1970.  It was unseasonably warm in the high 50's.
Today my husband and I celebrate 48 years of being happily married.
Yes we were married on Valentine's Day; however, it was not our first choice of dates. 

February 14, 1970
4:00 pm
Tabernacle Baptist Church,
Raleigh, North Carolina

So here is the rest of the story on how we came to be married on Valentine's Day.
I will present it in a time line:
Key words here:  1968-1971 husband to be aka HTB was a Marine Reservist
the drills were once a month, every month on the weekends, all day Saturday and Sunday.  They were rarely in Raleigh and almost 100% of the time in a remote area that took hours to drive to/from via bulky military vehicles.

1. Saturday, August 9, 1969: Engaged, we immediately decided on a February 1970  wedding.
2. Monday, August 11, 1969 HTB started trying to get information from Marines on the date for the February 1970 reserve meeting.

REMINDER: 1969 no cell phones, no email, no tweets.  Only mode of communication was snail mail or a rotary or push button phone and no phone back then had built in voice mail.  If no one answered the phone, you had to keep calling back.  I lived in the dark ages.

3. For the next 3 months, at each weekend meeting, HTB try to get a date for February 1970 meeting.
Powers that be had no clue or so they said...weekend drills required lots of planning so we were pretty sure they knew but just WEREN'T sharing the info.

4.  No worries I HAD MY WEDDING
DRESS. I actually found the dress of my dreams in the store No ordering.  I did have to order all the bridesmaid's dresses but that was done through the same store. I was set.  Men's tux's no problem either.

5.  Finally in November we selected **February 7, 1970, 2PM for our wedding.  Reserved our church, reception hall, baker, caterer, florist.  We had selected our invitations by late November.

6. By the first week of December, our guest lists were completed.  The order form to be sent to the printer for invitation selections was ready to be snail mailed to printer.  HTB knew this. He was late getting back from December meeting so he could not call me until Monday. I don't recall now what was going on, probably some type of appointment, but left home earlier than usual Monday morning.  I missed his call.  I expect he was getting frantic thinking I was at the post office.   I returned to work to find a message from him.  GUESS WHAT Marines finally told him in December that the February 1970 weekend meeting would be **FEBRUARY 7.  Needless to say, I didn't  mail the package to the printer.  I had to call church, reception hall, baker, florist and caterer to see what Saturday in February they all had available.  Everyone was available on February 14th...except our Church and reception hall.  There was another wedding at 2 pm at our church. We changee our time to 4pm.   Good news was the couple getting married at 2 pm had their reception planned at another venue.
Wonder how many people can say the  U.S. Marine Corps helped select their wedding date.  
Now a days it takes a year or more to plan a wedding.  Even with all the excellent modes of communication today, a change like this would push the wedding back and cause many tears to fall.  Different times for sure.

There were no hiccups on our wedding day.  The ceremony and reception were perfectly timed.  There were just the few hiccups as mentioned above.  Plus my flowers of choice, red and white carnations, had to be ordered from a green house several hundred miles away and  were the most costly item for our wedding.  Another sign of the times.  Now you can buy any flower you want anytime. 


  1. Hari OM
    Happy Anniversary you adorable things!!! What a perfect day for it. As well as something significant to remember it by!
    YAM xx

  2. What a wonderful ROMANTIC story!!!!
    Happy Anniversary to you

  3. How wonderful and very sweet. You two are a matched pair indeed to be together all these years. Thank you for sharing your story. Happy, happy anniversary! And, happy Valentines day to all of you. You know I have to include Madi.

  4. and here i thought you chose the 14th because it was romantic. LOL a good thing the invites had not been mailed. good old Marine corp came through with the best date ever. Happy Anniversary

  5. Mom says she remembers those dark ages so well. Happy Anniversary to the two of you and Happy Valentine's Day!

  6. Happy 48th, and Happy Valentine's Day too! We eloped to Las Vegas, and only had to choose what chapel to go to...I would never have lived through the stress of planning a big or even a smallish shindig.

  7. After hearing the story behind the date, and knowing the loving bond between you and Brian, we think it was all destined to happen the way that it did.

    Happy Anniversary Day and Happy Valentine's Day!
    Woos - Lightning, Misty, and Timber

  8. Happy Anniversary! Sounds like it was meant to be on February 14 and the Marines just gave fate a little push in the right direction.

  9. C & B~~~~~~ a very happy 48th to you and I wish you both a year
    ahead filled with happiness and health. 48...not many make it to
    that number; they either marry to late; or divorce to early !!! I
    hope your day is FABulous as dai$y says and you do something really
    special...hugs and loves ♥♥♥ L

  10. HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!!! Good ole government non communication at work, right?! So glad it all worked out because you two were made for each other!!

    My father was a Marine when my parents got married, also in February(the 4th) but I don't remember hearing about any problems. I'm definitely going to ask about it next time I see them tho!


  11. Wow, we are glad the the 14th was open. Who'd have thought? Happy anniversary you two!! Happy Valentine's Day!

    Keep Calm & Bark On!

    Murphy & Stanley

  12. Happy Anniversary to the happy couple. Our mom & dad will be celebrating 25 yrs this year (they met in their late 30's)
    Hazel & Mabel

  13. And they lived happily ever after!

    Happy Anniversary!

  14. Happy Anniversary and Happy Valentine's Day to you and your hubby.


  15. Well things happen for a reason - the fact you had to move all those arrangements to the week after original date just put you in the hands of the "Valentine's Day Gods" and voila - instant recognition for life of your anniversary date! No way can that hubby of yours (or you!) forget the BIG DAY EVER. LOL Seriously though, you're right - things have changed a whole lot since "back then" when it comes to making wedding plans. I don't intend to go through that again (hahahaha).

    Love, Pam

  16. Happy Anniversary from one very happily married couple (mom and dad, not me) to another. Damn, that's a long time!!

  17. That’s an adorable story! BTW, I came across you through Anni’s blog.
    Happy Anniversary


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